Vexed

[keiramarcos]

I'm going to get a little personal with you, don't worry, it won't hurt (much). Here's the thing since I was sixteen I've worn a 34D bra. All through college and my twenties -- never changed. Sometimes in designer bras I had to go up to a 36D which was fine. Right? Sizes do vary and I'm comfortable with that. This morning, my mother and I were in JC Penny's changing room trying on some stuff and I mentioned I needed a new bra. She offered to go snag a few off the rack for me to try on and would return ever once in a while with the following questions like:

Her: Did you want functional or sexy?
Me: Can't I have both
Her: (snort) Not in a D cup
Me: Functional but nothing white or beige

None of them are comfortable. Not a single one. Though you should replace your bras at least once a year (especially if you're stacked like me) I haven't actually bought a bra in about two years. So she suggests trying some 36 and 38s -- I agree and none them are remotely comfortable either. They weren't too tight -- the fit was just horrible and I figured it was more me being picky than anything else.

My mother disagreed and said: Let's try a 36DD
Me: No fucking way am I a DD.
Her: Are you sure? I think you should try.
Me: No. Absolutely not. I'm not a DD. I've worn a D cup since I was 16.
Her: Well, far be it from me to alter your self-perceptions regarding your tits -- but I think you're wrong.
Me: No.
She threw a 36DD at my head and said: Don't be an idiot.

I try it on and I'll be goddamned if it doesn't fit perfectly. It's easily the most comfortable bra I've ever worn.

She'll be impossible to live with from now on and worse? The sales lady just laughed at us the entire time.

Comments

[mythologian.livejournal.com]

I feel your pain, for years I thought I was a 32D, maybe a DD at the most, but it was almost impossible to find comfortable bras, I finally got a fitting a few years back... turns out I'm a 30G, which is shitastic since it means it's almost impossible to find bras in store in the US. Being females sucks sometimes.

[ohhdarkstoned11.livejournal.com]

I feel your pain. Nordstrom has a great selection of really nice bras in a huge array of sizes like that, a little bit higher in price but really nice.

[spazlady2002.livejournal.com]

J.C. Pennys bras are a little weird to begin with, so I understand where you are coming from.

[lapislaz.livejournal.com]

There is no such thing as a comfortable bra. The two words don't even belong in the same sentence. And yes, I've had a fitting. It made my tits look great, but I couldn't breathe. Fuck that shit.

[keenoled.livejournal.com]

My god, yes! Me too. Nowadays I wear an elastic thing that's so thin it's not even called a sports bra but a "top", and look like I have no bust at all, but rather that and breathing...

[manic-bookworm.livejournal.com]

I know that feeling - but for me it's my older sister...
She's so smug, grrr - but i am comfortable - so i am enduring *grin*

Monika

[rhiannon-wing.livejournal.com]

Keira, Myth, I also feel the pain, I've resorted to CUSTOM made bras, no where in the fucking country do they make 36 FF that don't cost an arm, leg and both tits. That being said, I haven't bought a bra in years, since I wear them till they cry out and rip apart. And what really SUCKS? They're natural...but the BF loves em *grin*

[sorka42.livejournal.com]

There is a store called the Bra and Girdle Factory by me, a lot of the sales people are trained in how to properly choose a bra size. What I was told is that most women purchase bras that are ill fitting because they buy them not to fit the cup, but to fit the body. I'm a DD. I have a friend from high school who had EEE cups. As soon as they got her hormones under control she went for breast reduction surgery.

[ladyholder.livejournal.com]

There is a reason why I wear sports bras... for me, they are more comfortable.

~L

[rabidfan.livejournal.com]

Chances are when you go to buy bras at another store you'll find you're yet again a different size. Different manufacturers get off on messing with our heads size-wise! That being said, our breasts change as we age. In my teens I was a C cup. Now in my 30's I'm a D sometimes DD. ::shrugs:: What can you do?

[wdlwbt.livejournal.com]

I have to say that Lane Bryant has the best bras for big breasted women. As a 38DDD, trust me I know.

[calanor.livejournal.com]

that's true ... but for being plus size..they don't carry over a size 48... and I'm anywhere from a 50 to 54 depending on how they fit and feel..

[batspit.livejournal.com]

Could be worse. Once you get up to 3D those fuckers cost a fortune and are scarcer than chocolate on a bleeding day.

[elf-powder.livejournal.com]

I'm with you there, sister. I'm a 36C, and my tits change with my body weight. I slim down a little, so do my breasts. I gain weight, and I find myself in a 36D bra. And it's frustrating, because even in a C, (which you would figure would have more variety in styles and comfort), I can't find something that is sexy and feels awesome too. I guess I can blame the fact that I like to have a little padding; not to make them look bigger, but to make the twins look nice and firm, since my tits are anything but perky. Most of my options are either no padding--which leave my breasts hanging dejectdly and looking like they're just another roll of fat--or too much padding, like I'm trying to compansate for something my momma already gave me and they are more than a big handful thank you very much! So yeah, I'm in agreement with some of the gals here: there is no such thing as a comfortable bra, much less one that is sexy too.

[serpentlady69.livejournal.com]

I firmly believe bras are torture devices. I'm a 36B and that's a good size for me - I'm small enough to go without and not have people stare at me.

[auntbijou.livejournal.com]

*snorts with laughter*

You know, my mom used to be a "fit consultant" at a snooty department store chain here in Texas after she retired, and I never got the chance to not wear a bra that fits properly! I swear that woman would ogle my chest and say, "Time for another fitting," and damn if she wasn't right. Irritating in the extreme, especially since I was a charter member of the Itty Bitty Titty Committee until I was in my thirties. Marriage and regular sex changed things, and I grew to dread Mom yanking out the measuring tape!

Despite all that, I will say, get measured and fitted, just to be sure. Because the back pain ain't worth it!

Funny thing is, I'm a 42D, but I look down at my chest and... I still don't quite believe it. Shouldn't I have a personal shelf there, or a crumb-catcher or something??

And thank you for yet another opportunity to gleefully embarrass the Impertinent Daughter! I've been looking for that video for ages, but apparently, I was using the wrong search parameters! HEE!!! *rubs hands together and cackles*

[ladymina.livejournal.com]

I just recently went up from an DD to E (depending on manufacturer and cut) to a E to F - no fun at all.
Although I finally found a mail order that has comfortable bra's what they call T-Shirt Bras here, still got underwire but no seams or lace in the way that always grow uncomfortable after a few hours.
I admit to being annoyed that I cannot buy bras in usual clothing stores (some speciality lingery stores might I stress might carry it - but usually I have to order.
Which again is hard as the size changes slightly between cuts and manufacturers

[nerfi-tiri.livejournal.com]

Huh, I don't suppose anybody can 'translate' those sizes to European-ish? I live in Denmark, and have noooo idea what you're all talking about :)

I use 80B - which is pretty common here. And kinda fortunate for me as I MIGHT have just a teensy thing-y with bras... Only have *cough*20*cough*.... ;P

[lygtemanden.livejournal.com]

The cups are the same, and a 80 is the same as a 36, 85 is a 38 and so on...

[grimm-solace.livejournal.com]

38C, and I swear by the Maidenform brand. I used to work for them, and got addicted. When I quit, I didn't have ready access, and because I firmly believe in trying on bras, I simply didn't buy. I discovered that the local Kohl's has them. They cost about what I expect from bras nowadays, but there are coupons and sales aplenty with Kohl's. Maidenform's newer lines are SO much more comfortable than they used to be while still being somewhat cute.

I just bought two bras, and I'm getting rid of every other bra in my drawer in favor of Maidenform.

[adafrog.livejournal.com]

lol Go mom!

[xocoatldreams.livejournal.com]

Gravity, ain't it lovely. I wore a DD (though tech I was bigger than that) since my mid teens. Now, after a breast reduction, I'm in a D-ish, sometimes C sometimes DD depending on the make.

[lahgategirl.livejournal.com]

Dont you just hate when your mom is right even though you are so sure. Then of course they lord it over you next time there's is a disagreement.

[damaskrose32.livejournal.com]

Yeah, I've progressed over time to a 36DD at 30 years old, having been a 32B/C in high school. I agree with auntbijou, in that I look at other people with smaller chests but who have cleavage, and then at myself, and I have no cleavage, bust-size notwithstanding. Bras are strange strange things. At least I finally found some that hold up even when the straps fall off, have heavily padded straps, and reasonably comfortable chest bands. Even if they do look kinda grannyish. I'll take comfort over fancy in underwear anyday!

[ohhdarkstoned11.livejournal.com]

Bras are evil, they hurt, often are not cute, and cost your first born child. I bounced around in sizes for while, I'm only 21 and my size still goes up a little every couple of months at times. I'm a 38 HH and finding a good bra that fits it harder than getting away with murder. Nordstrom has a really nice verity in a lot of sizes that are often comfortable and cute, and they have sales.

[diva0789.livejournal.com]

I'm 22 years old and I wear a size 46/48 DD. I've been the same size since high school. I'm not ashamed of my breasts, I just get really irritated when men treat me like I'm stupid because of my cup size. I get positively homicidal when some jackass tells me that if I don't like the way I'm treated I should cover them up. I'm sorry, I won't make myself look like shit - just to make you less of an asshole.

High school was WRETCHED!

[tlyna.livejournal.com]

I know exactly what you mean. I almost went homicidal when some asshole called me 'torpedo tits'. I'm a 44DDD. All I came up with to say back was, "At least I have something," and stared at his crotch with a smirk.

[allylti.livejournal.com]

Ahhh, bra shopping! I always have to keep in mind that there is no firm industry regulation so manufactures make vanity sizes. My size can be anything from a 30AA to 34B depending on the brand.

[halftime1030.livejournal.com]

I completely sympathize... bras are simply evil, but a necessary one. Once I happen to find a style that fits AND looks pretty I buy several in as many colors possible. Of course, the last one I found that I loved is no longer made :(

[bemus-ed.livejournal.com]

I feel your pain. Literally, I just bought two new bras today (sale!) One is a double d, and the other is a triple d. Talk about sizing differences!

In grade six I once threatened to turn around and flash a guy if he didn't shut up and stop teasing me that I stuffed my bra... during the middle of an assembly. He turned red and shut up while another guy sitting beside him laughed his ass off.