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Marie Kondo Would be Appalled
Feb. 24th, 2019 06:54 amTime after time, I've sought some sort of replacement for LJ. When it imploded, I invested myself in Facebook and cultivated fandom friends and groups. BUT, I also delved into other topics on Facebook and it has all become a big stressful mess. I tried Tumblr but it never gelled in my mind (maybe that's my age showing). And I didn't stay fandom focused over there either.
I do think it falls to us to "create" a fandom space in whatever platform we choose. And that boils down to our own behavior really. I rarely talked about anything but fandom on my LJ (and well I bitched a lot about family) and I did transfer all of that content to Dreamwidth but there isn't a sense of community here that I've been able to really connect with. I like Dreamwidth and will continue to use it but it's just not what I want it to be. Maybe it could be one day?
So the big question is -- is MeWe the solution?
I think it COULD be. If we cultivate fandom friends, create fandom groups, and avoid bringing crap into it that would make it joyless. Facebook is like that for me -- Marie Kondo would be appalled.
Yesterday, I did start the process of Kondo'ing my FB. I unliked political and news pages. I turned off notifications for games
I don't play. I left groups that irritate me and there were a lot of them. I joined a group on FB recently for PCOS for resources. Unfortunately, it was also full of women trying to have babies and some of them were succeeding. My god, it seemed like once a week I was seeing a picture of a positive pregnancy test. The last one I saw I burst into tears. I left that group yesterday. Why do that to myself? I'll just buy a diet book for PCOS and try to figure out what parts of my diet works for me and what doesn't. Gah.
Going into MeWe, I decided -- no politics, no religion, no causes of any sort. I posted that on my timeline over there today. I got an email this morning questioning me on it -- and demanding to know how I could dictate what my friends on the platform posted. Well, I didn't. I just said that if they post that shit I'll unfollow them indefinitely and I mean it. They can still see my posts if they want and be in my groups but I'm really fucking tired of the crappy world we live in.
I need a fandom safe place to have fun and MeWe is my choice.
I do think it falls to us to "create" a fandom space in whatever platform we choose. And that boils down to our own behavior really. I rarely talked about anything but fandom on my LJ (and well I bitched a lot about family) and I did transfer all of that content to Dreamwidth but there isn't a sense of community here that I've been able to really connect with. I like Dreamwidth and will continue to use it but it's just not what I want it to be. Maybe it could be one day?
So the big question is -- is MeWe the solution?
I think it COULD be. If we cultivate fandom friends, create fandom groups, and avoid bringing crap into it that would make it joyless. Facebook is like that for me -- Marie Kondo would be appalled.
Yesterday, I did start the process of Kondo'ing my FB. I unliked political and news pages. I turned off notifications for games
I don't play. I left groups that irritate me and there were a lot of them. I joined a group on FB recently for PCOS for resources. Unfortunately, it was also full of women trying to have babies and some of them were succeeding. My god, it seemed like once a week I was seeing a picture of a positive pregnancy test. The last one I saw I burst into tears. I left that group yesterday. Why do that to myself? I'll just buy a diet book for PCOS and try to figure out what parts of my diet works for me and what doesn't. Gah.
Going into MeWe, I decided -- no politics, no religion, no causes of any sort. I posted that on my timeline over there today. I got an email this morning questioning me on it -- and demanding to know how I could dictate what my friends on the platform posted. Well, I didn't. I just said that if they post that shit I'll unfollow them indefinitely and I mean it. They can still see my posts if they want and be in my groups but I'm really fucking tired of the crappy world we live in.
I need a fandom safe place to have fun and MeWe is my choice.
