Marie Kondo Would be Appalled

[keiramarcos]

Time after time, I've sought some sort of replacement for LJ. When it imploded, I invested myself in Facebook and cultivated fandom friends and groups. BUT, I also delved into other topics on Facebook and it has all become a big stressful mess. I tried Tumblr but it never gelled in my mind (maybe that's my age showing). And I didn't stay fandom focused over there either.

I do think it falls to us to "create" a fandom space in whatever platform we choose. And that boils down to our own behavior really. I rarely talked about anything but fandom on my LJ (and well I bitched a lot about family) and I did transfer all of that content to Dreamwidth but there isn't a sense of community here that I've been able to really connect with. I like Dreamwidth and will continue to use it but it's just not what I want it to be. Maybe it could be one day?

So the big question is -- is MeWe the solution?

I think it COULD be. If we cultivate fandom friends, create fandom groups, and avoid bringing crap into it that would make it joyless. Facebook is like that for me -- Marie Kondo would be appalled.

Yesterday, I did start the process of Kondo'ing my FB. I unliked political and news pages. I turned off notifications for games 
I don't play. I left groups that irritate me and there were a lot of them. I joined a group on FB recently for PCOS for resources. Unfortunately, it was also full of women trying to have babies and some of them were succeeding. My god, it seemed like once a week I was seeing a picture of a positive pregnancy test. The last one I saw I burst into tears. I left that group yesterday. Why do that to myself? I'll just buy a diet book for PCOS and try to figure out what parts of my diet works for me and what doesn't. Gah.

Going into MeWe, I decided -- no politics, no religion, no causes of any sort. I posted that on my timeline over there today. I got an email this morning questioning me on it -- and demanding to know how I could dictate what my friends on the platform posted. Well, I didn't. I just said that if they post that shit I'll unfollow them indefinitely and I mean it. They can still see my posts if they want and be in my groups but I'm really fucking tired of the crappy world we live in. 

I need a fandom safe place to have fun and MeWe is my choice.

Comments

[darkjediqueen]

It sucks that someone questioned you on what YOU want on YOUR feed. Yes, you can't tell someone not to post it but you can make sure that you don't see. No one should ever fucking question you on that. FB and even MeWe make it so that you can do that. If you want to look at their feed, you can easily do it but you don't need it on your feed.

I'm all with you making MeWe a happy Fandom place.

[lesbatron5000]

Yeah I made a similar decision about how I'd use MeWe. No political shit, no people I kinda remember from high school trying to sell me diet supplements, not even my angry feminist shit, when I want to rant at strangers -and sometimes I do- I'll do it on facebook.
It also gives me an opportunity to have a "fandom profile" which I've never really given enough of a fuck to do before, but there have been times when I've not posted something because I wasn't particularly interested in having conversations with my relatives about all the gay porn I read.

[jackluvsdaniel]

Asshole people like that are exactly why I very rarely interacted with MHQ and fandom posts of FB. I tried having a separate FB for fandom for a while, but I hate FB so much and I never signed on to the second account so I deleted it. I could never get my privacy settings tweaked just right on my personal account, and inevitably a RL person would make a dumbass comment on a post I liked or commented on. I'm so fucking thrilled you sent out invites to MeWe. I used Tumblr for a few months to post McDanno stuff, but there was no real sense of community there. I haven't felt that since LJ. So thanks for the MeWe group!

Adrion Winterhart over on MeWe

[winterhart]

Also into McDanno. ;)

[adafrog]

Good for you.

[andey]

This is pretty much exactly what I joined mewe for- to just have a space for fandom and writing.

[azurehart]

I don't get their attitude. I mean in the last year I have had to migrate from three spaces I had used for fandom.

I moved my bookmarks from diigo to pinboard, left LJ for the safe harbor of DreamWidth and InsaneJournal, and the Tumblr purge has seen doom dicks wandering into Ello.

Yes, I'm not thrilled with migrating yet again to a new fandom space and no I'm not giving up my FB. But, and this is the important part, I am aware that those are my choices and I zero right to try to guilt trip people into agreeing with me.

No one should ever feel forced to stay in a situation that is toxic for their mental wellbeing.

[accio_kilt]

I’m appalled that someone had the nerve to question you. The nerve of some people—really. F*ck’em! I miss the fandom camaraderie that was LJ, as well. I left LJ for IJ, DW, and AO3. It’s not the same. I have 2 accounts on FB for obvious reasons. I”Kondo’d” both yesterday. I will be canceling my LinkdIn today, and am looking for somewhere to save my stuff from Pinterest. I’m hoping our little fandom finds a home on MeWe because I would gladly dump FB. I’m glad MeWe is giving you and so many of the rest of us the good feels. Merlin knows we need it these days!

Pinterest you can make boards private

[winterhart]

I learned that from one of the blogging groups I'm in.

[desertpoet]

I went through my FB news feed and unliked all my news pages today. I feel so much better like a weight has been lifted. Thanks for the idea.